Poignant Story of Surrogacy | Bringing in Finn by Sara Connell

Please note that as a follow-on to this review and as part of a WOW! Women on Writing Book tour, Sara Connell will visit with me for an interview tomorrow, Tuesday, November 19th. Additionally, a copy of Bringing in Finn, will go to one lucky reader who participates in the giveaway. Look forward to having you visit again tomorrow!


“Maybe the whole purpose of her vision was for us to get to this place, a place of love and appreciation for each other, of unimagined intimacy and closeness. If that was the purpose, it should be enough, I told myself. Bill and I would survive. Even though we wanted deeply to be parents, we didn’t need a baby to live a complete life. I told this to myself, but I didn’t fully believe it.

“Just like my mother at the labyrinth, I could not totally surrender my desire. I shrugged and smiled at her, and we went downstairs to see if Bill wanted help with dinner.”

~ Sara Connell in Bringing in Finn


Bringing in Finn is an incredibly moving story of surrogacy and how it created a bond like no other between a mother and daughter.

In February 2011, 61-year-old Kristine Casey delivered the greatest gift of all to her daughter, Sara Connell: Sara’s son, Finnean. At that moment, Kristine—the gestational carrier of Sara and her husband Bill’s child—became the oldest woman ever to give birth in Chicago.  Bringing in Finn: An Extraordinary Surrogacy Story tells this modern family’s remarkable surrogacy story.

After trying to conceive naturally without success, Sara and her husband Bill dedicated years to a variety of fertility treatments—but after Sara lost a third pregnancy (including the loss of twins at twenty-two weeks), they started to give up their hope. When Kristine offered to be their surrogate, they were shocked; but Kristine was clear that helping Sara become a mother felt like a calling, something she felt inspired to do.

In this achingly honest memoir, Connell recounts the tragedy and heartbreak of losing pregnancies; the process of opening her heart and mind to the idea of her sixty-one-year-old mother carrying her child for her; and the profound bond that blossomed between mother and daughter as a result of their unique experience together.

Bringing in Finn is the true story of a couple who wanted nothing more than to have a family and a mother who would do anything for her daughter. After unsuccessfully trying to conceive naturally, years of fertility treatments, miscarriage and a late term loss of twins, Sara and Bill Connell were emotionally and financially depleted and at a loss as to how they could have a family. When Sara’s mother Kristine offered to be their surrogate, the three embark on the journey that would culminate in Finnean’s miraculous birth and complete a transformation of their at-one-time strained mother-daughter relationship.

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My Thoughts:

Bringing in Finn is not just a story about a couple who desperately want a child. Nor is it a story intended to only detail their struggles, disappointments and attempts to conceive. It is about so much more than that.

Sara Connell brings to the page a story of extraordinary love that encompasses and bridges a conflicted relationship between a mother and her daughter.

Connell’s desire for a child is reinforced by her husband’s mutual wish to grow their family. What seem like insurmountable odds work against them as they attempt conception via in vitro fertilization. At times, the despair and heartache described by Connell is wrenching for the reader. At times, I wanted to reach through the pages to help this couple.

And yet help is present on the fringe of this anxious and desperate situation. An unlikely surrogate comes forward in Connell’s 61-year old mother. From this gift to her daughter and son-in-law, Kristine unknowingly sets into place another miraculous event.

The cover of Bringing in Finn gives a visual of the happiness that grew out of this couple’s struggle to bring Finn into the world.

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My Recommendation: 

If you are considering surrogacy, this book may be for you. However, I would caution that there are raw moments of grief, despair and depression within its pages. Be ready to walk a journey with the Connells that you may not yet have experienced yourself. On the other hand, this is a story of hope and miracles that anyone would find worthy of taking the time to read if only because of its simply beautiful message.

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Meet the Author:

SaraConnellSara Connell is an author, speaker, and life coach with a private practice in Chicago. She has appeared on Oprah, Good Morning America, NPR, The View, FOX News and Katie Couric. Sara’s writing has been featured in: The New York Times, Good Housekeeping, Parenting, Psychobabble, Evolving Your Spirit, and Mindful Metropolismagazines. Her first book, Bringing in Finn; an Extraordinary Surrogacy Story (Sept 4, 2012 Seal Press)was nominated for Book of the Year 2012 by Elle magazine.

Sara’s Website: http://www.saraconnell.com
Sara’s Blog: http://www.saraconnell.com/blog
Sara on Twitter: https://twitter.com/saracconnell
Sara on Facebook:

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Publisher: Seal Press
Published: October 8, 2013
Genre: Memoir
ISBN-10: 1580055419
Paperback: 336 pages

Bringing in Finn is available as a print and e-book at Amazon.

I received a copy of Bringing in Finn from the publisher via WOW! Women on Writing in exchange for a fair and honest review. The opinions expressed here are my own.

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UP NEXT:  Tomorrow come back to meet Sara Connell in an interview about the story behind the book, Bringing in Finn AND one lucky reader will win a copy of the book in a Rafflecopter giveaway. See you tomorrow!


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6 thoughts on “Poignant Story of Surrogacy | Bringing in Finn by Sara Connell

  1. […] Yesterday I reviewed Bringing in Finn. If you haven’t had a chance to read it, you can do so now or after reading the interview with Sara. […]


  2. krpooler November 18, 2013 at 7:48 am Reply

    Sherrey, I appreciate your succinct,yet descriptive reviews. You have captured the essence of Sara’s story so powerfully. I look forward to your interview tomorrow. You probably already know to remove my name from the drawing since i featured Sara last week on my blog and already have the book. Thanks!


    • Sherrey Meyer November 18, 2013 at 12:39 pm Reply

      Kathleen, thank you for those words, “succinct, yet descriptive.” Made my day! I’ve been thinking a lot about my reviews and wonder about a few things. Perhaps you can help. Is a long synopsis bothersome, and should it be shortened and linked to Goodreads? What about the author’s bio? Treated the same way with a link to important sites for the author instead? Is the idea of my being an affiliate an Amazon and IndieBound a turnoff? I know I can trust you — I hope you have time to reply.


      • krpooler November 19, 2013 at 2:41 pm Reply

        Hi Sherrey, off the top of my head, I’d say the book synopsis and the author’s bio should be short with perhaps a link to Goodreads or Amazon if readers want to know more. IMHO,the real “meat” of the review is in how the book moved you and why as you have done with Sara’s review. Readers want to know if it’s worth their time to read. I never thought of Amazon Associates as being a turn-off. I just applied myself! So I would say no to your question. I’m not familiar with IndieBound. Does this help? Let me know. Actually we’re due for a phone chat!


        • Sherrey Meyer November 19, 2013 at 2:56 pm Reply

          Hi Kathy and thanks for your input. My feelings were running along the same track as you have written here. IndieBound is actually a bit better percentage to the affiliate than Amazon. However, I just learned yesterday that WordPress doesn’t allow affiliate associations to be used on their blogs, and since I’m not self-hosted but hosted by WordPress, I’ve removed myself from both Amazon and IndieBound. But I believe you are a self-hosted site or at least independent of something like Blogger or WordPress. Good luck! And yes, we are due a phone chat. We are traveling during the holiday but only for a couple of days. Want to set something up soon?


          • krpooler November 19, 2013 at 4:45 pm Reply

            Yes, Sherrey, let’s work out a time via email.


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